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New Beginnings

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I’m obsessed with taking pictures of sunrise because of what it represents.

 

Every morning we are presented with an opportunity to start afresh and put into practice the lessons we learned from yesterdays.

 

Dwelling in the past prevent us to move on from our failures and pain. We get so stuck up on how bad we screwed up or how we could’ve done better and as a result we let it define us.

 

I have learned since learned how to forget my past, to forgive myself and begin again – and I must say it is getting easier everyday. I no longer find myself crying in the corner contemplating on how I could’ve done better.

 

The amazing thing about this life is we can always begin again.

Fear and Anxiety

Fear can be loosely described as the believe that there is something that is out there that is going to get you and there’s nothing you can do to stop it.

 

Fear can represent itself in different ways such as worry, panic, hopelessness, nervousness, stress, etc.

 

In most cases fear can spring in your life from variety of sources. Perhaps you are experiencing fear as a result of trying to conceal mistakes / imperfections. Or you perhaps you are ashamed of something you have done in the past and you fear that it will come to light one day.

 

Or if you are like me, you are experiencing fear because as a result of trying to control too many things in your life.

 

Fear and anxiety usually go hand in hand.

Fear often serves to prepare people for a perceived future threat and find potential solutions to problems, however worrying itself can become compulsive and people can develop a sense of lack of control or over their worrying, which may constitute a disorder.

 

Let’s have a look at the difference responses between fear anxiety:

 

Underlying causes of depression among young people in Africa.

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The ages of 16-35 remain the most vulnerable in society living below the poverty line with little access to resources including education and jobs.

One of the biggest challenges we are facing as young people today is depression, which is a medical problem, but it is not taken seriously in our communities.

Can we get this right? Depression is more than just sadness, it is a serious condition which has an impact on both physical and mental health.

It is not necessarily brought on by any certain event or distressing circumstances. Rather it manifests without any determinable trigger.

Did you know that 1 in 10 teenage deaths in South Africa are due to suicide? And 20% of high school learners suffering from depression have attempted suicide? These are the painful statistics and the sad reality we live in. 
I have found out that most people in our black communities, depression is regarded as “white” people’s depression. Depression does not have colour. Misunderstanding, ignorance and lack of education are at the root of stigmatization.

These factors have inflicted immense suffering to those affected in our communities, young people have taken their own lives, believing this is their only way out. It is a tragic outcome where they are afraid to ask for help, fearing they would be perceived as weak.

Depression has many triggers. At times, it’s the situation at home, work, school or in one’s love life. A depressed person can put a smile and a brave face if they want to be perceived as having a strong character. However, some start drinking too much or using drugs to ease the pain, and some withdraw from the outside world. They may lock themselves in their houses, wanting to be alone. Some resort to self-harm. And as mentioned earlier, depression leads to suicide, which may be stigmatized – an act described as selfish, rather than its root cause being examined.

Just like any illness, depression can be treated to be it through medication, therapy or lifestyle change.

So, to the South African youth of today, let us not be defeated by mental illness, go out and seek help. There are lots of non-profit organisation who offer free support programmes. Reach out, don’t suffer in silence

Living in the present moment

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You know when you’re facing a tough day or a week, it’s very important to focus on the NOW moment.

 

You know when you’re facing a tough day or a week, it’s very important to focus on the NOW moment.

 

You can do this by not dreading the future or regretting the past

 

 

Realize that the present moment is all you have and consciously make NOW your primary focus.

 

This is basically you realizing that it really doesn’t matter what happened yesterday or what the future holds. All that matters is now.

Our brains are future-oriented and this tends to make our stress levels to always be sky high. And if you look at it, the majority of our worries dealing with the issues of the future, what will happen tomorrow, next week, next year, etc.

 

Have you ever realized that most of the things we worry about have no immediate solution?

 

So next time worry and anxiety knocks on your door, ask yourself these questions;

By worrying Now, how is that going to change anything?

You don’t have to figure out the future right now, and most importantly you don’t have to live in the past.

 

So, make it a habit of taking time to pause and reflect on your life and that will help you appreciative and grateful for little moments.

 

Celebrate your strengths. Appreciate how far you’ve come, and the beauty of your scars.